Can I Find a Girlfriend if I’m Not Macho and Lack Machismo Due to Asperger’s Syndrome?

The age-old adage that you need to be a bad boy to get a girlfriend is just that—an outdated stereotype. To be honest, just be yourself and don’t try to be like other people. There will always be that one girl who will fall for you no matter what because girls have different tastes in guys.

Take your time with it. You'll eventually find a girlfriend. Don’t try to rush. The law of attraction suggests that you attract rather than chase someone to become your girlfriend. Eventually, someone will be attracted to you without you even knowing.

Forget What the Snowflakes Say

It's important to forget the pressures and beliefs of online communities. A genetic flaw, such as that seen in bulldogs with their massive jaw or the unique features of munchkin cats, is a rement to the gene pool.

Think of people on the Autism Spectrum, including those with Asperger’s Syndrome, as part of the natural diversity.

I counsel people on the Spectrum to let nature take its course and NOT add defects to the gene pool. Letting individuals with Asperger’s develop their unique strengths and skills can lead to fulfilling relationships.

How to Attract a Girlfriend with Asperger’s Syndrome

Go to any mall or public place, and observe couples. Do you think every man is macho? Not at all. Do you think every woman is the same and all like the same type of men? Not at all.

My girlfriend was dating a macho guy when I met her, and she dumped him for me. She recognized that I wasn’t the type of guy she wanted and saw potential in me. I had bad social anxiety when I met my girlfriend, but that didn’t affect her choice.

What Does Charisma Mean?

Being masculine is much more complex than just what men believe today. What they believe in are stereotypes. Masculinity is subjective, and no one has yet defined it universally.

Women have unique personalities, and each one has different criteria for judging men. There are a few universal qualities that attract women across cultures: being a good father, a good partner, and a good friend.

Whether you have the potential to be all three is a matter of personal growth. Your mental disorder will be overlooked because women are intuitive. They will notice that you are working on yourself and becoming a better person, even if you cannot control your mental illness entirely.

Remember that strength can come from intelligence and vice versa. There are multiple different ways in which you can be masculine. Focus on personal and emotional growth to enhance your appeal and compatibility with potential partners.

Conclusion

While society often emphasizes machismo and strength as prerequisites for romantic success, it is essential to embrace who you are and focus on personal growth. As someone with Asperger’s Syndrome, you have unique strengths and opportunities for connection with others.

Trust the process and let nature take its course. By working on yourself and being a good partner and friend, you can attract the right person for you. Don't rush, and remember that true attraction is often subtle and not about fitting into a narrow stereotype.