How Being Korean-American Has Influenced My Life

My journey as a Korean-American has been a rich tapestry woven with threads of both American and Korean cultures. Growing up, I often felt torn between the two identities, a dichotomy that has shaped my life in profound ways. In this article, I explore how being Korean-American has affected my life, from my tricky relationship with my parents to the mixture of cultures that I embraced.

Declaring My Allegiance

Times were different when my parents took us to Guam and Hawaii before we came to the United States. Their decision to move here was about avoiding the Korean military service and seeking a different identity. However, it brought its own set of challenges. Holding an American passport with a Korean surname can sometimes feel like a double-edged sword. On one hand, I am accepted in America as a white American, but on the other, I face constant reminders of my Korean heritage in the form of names and cultural expectations. It's like walking a tightrope, balancing between two identities. In this moment, I often wonder if I would have been happier without this ambivalence.

Craving Bulgogi and Kimchi

Despite the challenges, the foods from both cultures bring a sense of comfort and familiarity. Bulgogi and kimchi are more than just dishes; they represent a connection to my roots. In moments of life’s struggles, craving these traditional Korean dishes is a way to find solace and a sense of belonging. For me, it's a small victory over my identity struggles.

A Balanced Life

However, I am grateful for the diverse life experiences that my Korean-American identity has offered. Growing up, I played American sports like baseball, football, and wrestling. I chose to attend a military school in Virginia and served in the U.S. Marines. My world was not limited to Korean culture. I dated individuals from all ethnic backgrounds and even had friends from diverse cultural backgrounds such as Persian and Mexican. This mix of cultures allowed me to be flexible and adaptive. I adopted what worked best from both cultures, a balance that made me more well-rounded.

Appreciating the Richness of Culture

I cherish the ability to experience the best of both worlds. I have fond memories of Korean BBQ nights with soju and beer, just as I love the comforting taste of eggs and crispy bacon. I enjoyed spending time with people from different ethnic backgrounds and relished the opportunity to taste their native dishes. My best friend is a Taiwanese girl, and my wife is good friends with her. It's heartwarming to see how my family and friends appreciate and support this diversity.

Embracing a Multicultural Identity

Being Korean-American has taught me valuable lessons about cultural fusion and identity. I have learned to respect, embrace, and be proud of my heritage. It's a journey that is not always smooth, but it has given me a unique perspective on life. As I reflect, I am grateful for the many experiences that have shaped me into the person I am today. To my parents and loved ones, I continue to find my own way, embracing the best from both cultures and finding my place in this world.

Conclusion

As a Korean-American, my life is a blend of the best of both cultures. It has brought me a wealth of experiences, from the diverse friendships and the rich flavors of food to the intricate dance of cultural identity. While at times, it can be challenging, it is also a source of pride and a reminder of the wonderful diversity that makes us all unique.