Narcissistic Entitlement: Understanding and Dealing with the Traits of a Narcissist

The term narcissistic entitlement describes a set of behaviors and attitudes exhibited by individuals with narcissistic personality traits. These individuals often expect unwarranted praise, unearned privileges, and special treatment without working to earn it or showing genuine respect towards others.

1. Seeking Accolades for Minimal Efforts

Many narcissists can act friendly on the surface but expect recognition or praise in return. For example, if they perform a simple chore or help with a work project, they might start looking for acknowledgment. They may internally believe, ‘When I do something, I deserve a pat on the back, and I will do more if you give me the recognition I think I deserve.’ This kind of behavior reveals a disingenuous approach towards goodness and genuine effort.

2. Feeling Betrayed by Differing Opinions

Narcissists can feel easily betrayed when you have separate opinions or preferences. They often express their desires, expecting total agreement. If you do not align with their views, they might say, ‘You’re not listening to me’ or ‘You’re not getting the concept.’ Instead of acknowledging that you do have different views, they interpret your disagreement as not supporting them. Their sense of entitlement makes them perceive such deviations as a lack of respect or cooperation, leading to feelings of betrayal.

3. Holding Grudges for Extended Periods

One of the key indicators of a narcissist is their strong sense of entitlement, which can be seen in how they hold grudges. If something does not go as planned, they may feel anger, bitterness, or resentment for a prolonged period, even years later. Their entrenched sense of deserving the best and the worst from others is a core aspect of their belief system. For example, years after an incident, they can still nurse the grudge, asking why the other person has not apologized or made amends.

4. Thin-Skinned During Disagreements

A narcissist’s thin skin during disagreements is another significant trait. Even in mild disagreements, they may react harshly. When presented with a differing opinion, they might say, ‘How dare you think that way’ or retreat into a shutdown mode without openness. This reaction is rooted in their sense of entitlement, which expects unwavering support and compliance without any room for disagreement. This thin-skinnedness is a direct result of their inflated sense of self-importance and the belief that they should always be heard and accepted.

Dealing with Narcissistic Entitlement

To cope with narcissistic entitlement, it is important to set clear boundaries and communicate them assertively. Recognize that validation of their behavior is not always necessary, as their sense of entitlement is not based on valid accomplishments or justifiable expectations. Instead, focus on your own needs and well-being, and seek support from friends, family, or professionals to help manage these interactions.

For more insights into narcissistic behaviors, consider reading: 10 Traits Of 9 Narcissistic Personalities That You Should Watch Out For.