Navigating Cultural Belonging as an Asian-American Immigrant

As an immigrant who straddles both cultures, I’ve experienced the nuances of cultural belonging firsthand. Coming to the USA at just 16, a challenging age, many of us new arrivals and immigrants often gravitate toward our ethnic communities for comfort and support. However, for those like myself, who have integrated into a different cultural background, finding a sense of belonging can be complex.

Due to my Jewish American husband, I maintain a connection to my Asian roots but do not feel the need to fully immerse myself in the ethnic community. After decades in the United States, I’ve realized that connecting with friends who truly understand and share my experiences can be challenging. This is especially true when attending ethnic churches or communities, where the same challenges can arise. Despite my work as a VA medical therapist, deeply connected with American veterans, many social interactions still feel distant and disconnected.

For Asian immigrants, the idea of clinging to one’s ethnic community is deeply rooted, with many finding strength and comfort within these groups. However, my situation is a bit different. As I have no immediate relatives here and am accustomed to solitude, my professional life and career become a significant source of belonging. I believe that it’s important to embrace this reality and understand that our sense of belonging can take various forms.

There is a prevalent narrative that Asian-Americans are viewed as outsiders in the USA, which stems from a lack of full cultural immersion into the dominant American lifestyle. This isolation, regardless of one’s background, creates a barrier to natural integration. While many Asian-Americans stick to their own groups, especially after high school, this trend can foster tension rather than unity between different cultural groups.

One’s willingness to fully embrace the dominant American lifestyle makes a significant difference. My journey as an immigrant from Korea at 13 illustrates this point. By 16, I had integrated successfully into mainstream society, and by 26, I had even married a Euro-American woman. This experience taught me that stepping out of one’s comfort zone and engaging with the broader community is key to acceptance and belonging.

It’s essential to acknowledge that this journey of integration can be challenging, and it’s natural to feel a sense of disconnection. However, by actively seeking out and embracing the dominant culture, one can bridge the gap that exists and foster a sense of unity and belonging.

In conclusion, the Asian-American experience is multifaceted, with a deep connection to one’s cultural heritage and the desire to find a place in the broader American society. Through understanding, acceptance, and active engagement, we can navigate these complex feelings and create a more harmonious and inclusive community.