The Journey to Perceived Age: A Personal Reflection

Originally answered in August 2019...

From my thirties onwards, I became consistently underestimated by about ten years. This has been a benefit I attribute largely to my genes, but also to a series of healthy habits I adopted throughout my life. Starting with the importance of skincare, I began using moisturizer in my twenties during the 1970s, when it was a significant deal for men. I have never smoked, have always used sunscreen, and avoided prolonged exposure to strong sunshine. These habits have greatly contributed to my perceived age. Additionally, I have maintained a healthy lifestyle, engaging in regular exercise, and since turning fifty, I have accepted my individuality and stopped trying to conform to an ideal of normality or age-appropriate behavior.

Embracing Self-Identity and Transition

In 2014, I experienced my first identity crisis at the age of 57, leading to a four-year period of spiralling depression. In 2018, when I was 61, I accepted that I was transgender. However, the fear of the unknown kept me from taking any action until March 2020. It was a picture that changed everything for me. My friends were instrumental in supporting my decision to start the transition process. They made me-up, lent me a hairpiece, and even silicone chicken fillets, but what made the true difference was their encouragement. This support gave me the confidence to start hormone replacement therapy (HRT) in September 2020. With the encouragement of friends and family, I came out to my neighbors and a few close friends, and they were incredibly supportive.

Throughout my transition, my old life and pictures from the past 50 years of mental distress were quietly put to one side. This was the first official picture of me as I truly am. The support from the community made this journey possible. In December 2021, at the age of 64, I came fully out as transgender to my family and friends. The support I received was fantastic, and I am truly humbled by the overwhelming love and appreciation from the vast majority of women. This experience allowed me to embrace my true self, leading me to feel genuinely happy and living life as I was meant to.

Living Honestly and Aging Gracefully

Now, I am 65 years old, dressed for a steampunk-themed event, a pirate and ball. For 65 years, I look better than many who are in their sixties or seventies. Now, at 66, I have been on HRT for three years and have retired, which makes me different from the typical pensioner. My journey has been filled with emotions, but I feel incredibly happy and fulfilled. I believe the best years of my life are yet to come.

So, when people ask if I look my age, I leave it to them to decide, but I must admit, I absolutely love how I look and feel. I have recently started modeling for a professional photographer, which is an exciting new venture.

Thank you for reading this personal journey of embracing one's true self and aging gracefully.