The Outrageous Questions Asked About Alternative Subcultures

As a follower of alternative subcultures like goth, emo, and punk, you face a myriad of questions that can range from curious to downright bizarre, reflecting a lack of understanding about the depth and diversity within these vibrant communities. Here are some of the most outrageous questions I have been asked over the years, and a closer look at the common misconceptions and stereotypes often attached to alternative subcultures.

Common Misconceptions Busted

One recurring question that often surfaces is the confusion between 'emo' and 'goth'. For instance, one adolescent emo individual shared, 'I’m 13 and emo, but so many people ask if I’m an e-girl. I’ve never been asked this, but so many people in my school think that A) calling people emo is an insult, and B) think dyed hair or just wearing black is emo/goth.'

Explaining the nuances of these subcultures can be challenging, especially when dealing with people who equate 'emo' and 'goth' with simply 'wearing black'. The truth is, the lines between these subcultures are often blurred and each offers a unique expression of individuality, emotions, and cultural influences.

Outrageous Questions and Their Context

Here are some of the most outrageous questions I have been asked, which often reveal a profound ignorance about alternative subcultures:

To clarify, Goths come from all religions, and no one should assume that simply by dresses in black or embraces alternative aesthetics, one must worship Satan or be a witch. Dressing is a personal choice, and in the case of alternative subcultures, it often serves as a form of self-expression and exploration.

Strange and Bizarre Questions

In addition to the more common misconceptions, I have faced some truly bizarre and outrageous questions:

These types of questions not only reflect a lack of respect for personal boundaries but also a complete misunderstanding of the essence of alternative subcultures. The questions delve into deeply personal and risqué territory without permission, often trivializing the complex and meaningful experiences one can have within alternative communities.

The Most Outrageous Question

Out of all the questions I have received, one stands out as particularly egregious:

‘If you’re so into death and the occult, not into the occult, why don’t you just die?’

I have been asked this question on various occasions—in the street, in clubs, in a store I managed, and even by someone in my family. This statement not only demonstrates a severe misunderstanding of the beauty and reverence that many alternative subcultures place on death and the occult but also shows a disturbing indifference towards the well-being of individuals.

My response to such questions often involves pointing out the difference: 'Death is a beauty to revere, not to revel in. If you don’t understand the difference, I will get you a dictionary.' This direct response serves as a reminder that alternative subcultures are rich and complex, often carrying a deeper cultural and philosophical significance.

Ultimately, the outrageous questions reflect a broader issue of miscommunication and a lack of understanding of the diversity within alternative subcultures. By engaging in open and respectful conversations, we can dispel stereotypes and foster greater inclusivity and understanding.