Understanding Denial and Alcoholism: Why Some Drink Excessively and Don’t Think They’re Addicted

Many people face the challenge of helping a friend overcome alcoholism. In one scenario, a person drinks to excess every day but doesn’t believe they have a problem. This article delves into why people might deny having an alcohol issue and offers insights for those seeking to help their loved ones. Would you be willing to make a bet with your friend that they cannot stop drinking for 30 days? It would likely be a lost cause, and making the bet, say $200, could be a compelling way to get the conversation started. But the real question is, if they couldn't stop, then why not?

Alcoholism and Denial: A Path to Perspective

As a grateful recovering alcoholic with over 32 years of sobriety, I have found the best definition of an alcoholic to be: 'If alcohol causes a problem, then alcohol is the problem.' It really is no more complicated than that. People often deny they have an alcohol issue because they are not ready to quit. This denial can serve as a psychological barrier, preventing them from facing the reality of their situation.

The Danger of Excessive Drinking

If your friend has been drinking excessively, consuming more than 2 units of alcohol every day, it is highly probable that they are alcohol dependent. Numerous individuals with this dependency choose not to accept their situation, believing that they simply enjoy drinking and do not have a problem. However, patterns can be revealing. If they find themselves unable to stop drinking and experience any of the symptoms below, it is crucial that they seek medical attention. Without proper treatment, their refusal to drink could lead to fatal health consequences.

When an addicted individual is cut off from alcohol, they may suffer from withdrawal symptoms. A moderate number of units per week is considered safe; even this amount is not without risk. The recommended weekly limit is 14 units, equivalent to drinking less than one can of beer daily. However, any amount over one drink per day significantly exceeds this safe threshold. Repeated drinking over 14 units a week poses a serious threat to health.

Breaking Through Denial: A Complex Challenge

Trying to convince someone who is in denial about their alcohol addiction is a challenging and often frustrating endeavor. The stark reality is that severe withdrawal symptoms can be fatal, making it extremely difficult to engage with such individuals. It can take a long time and considerable effort to break through their defenses. For those who are unwilling to seek help, a harm reduction approach may be necessary to minimize risks to their health. Rehabilitating such individuals often requires significant time, effort, and patience.

Consider this: many people who drink excessively do not want to stop and derive pleasure from the habit, regardless of our opinions. Their lives revolve around the need to obtain resources for substances, a pattern that repeats daily. This habit forms a significant part of their lifestyle, much like how drug users spend a considerable amount of their time seeking resources to use their substances multiple times a day.

Conclusion

Helping a friend overcome alcoholism requires patience, understanding, and often, a structured approach. While denial might be a pressing roadblock, recognizing the signs of alcohol dependency and encouraging medical intervention can improve their chances of a healthier life. Remember, as a recovering alcoholic, overcoming such addiction is a testament to the strength of will and dedication required to turn one’s life around.