Why American Society is Incelphobic: The Double Standard in Gender Treatment

Recent discussions and social media trends have shed light on a term that is growing more and more relevant: incelphobic. This term describes a phenomenon where individuals, typically men, are met with harsh societal expectations and a lack of support, leading to feelings of rejection and misunderstanding. This article explores the roots of this issue, its implications, and the underlying societal norms that contribute to this imbalance.

Society Hates Men by Default

In American society, men are treated differently from women, often being subjected to a default state of being treated poorly. According to social norms, a man’s actions are scrutinized, while women’s are often forgiven or overlooked. A notable example in recent months was the perceived notion that a wild bear could be trusted more than an average man. This attitude extends to professional and personal settings, where men’s employment performance is exclusively criticized, rarely complimented, or honored.

Society is Kind to Women by Default

In contrast, women are expected to be treated with kindness and respect. However, this kindness is taken for granted and not necessarily appreciated. Women are frequently showered with unwarranted favors, and their efforts and kindness are often unnoticed or underappreciated. This disparity stems from the imbalance in societal expectations, wherein women’s virtues and kindness are expected, while men’s are more valued when they are impressive or rare.

The Rarity and Value of Being Nice in Men

Due to the low supply of men being perceived as “nice,” they hold this trait in high value. Men who are “nice” are seen as rare and special, often leading to deep, long-lasting friendships with a small circle of close friends. This trait often becomes the most sought-after quality in a partner. However, men often struggle to understand that women’s expectations and priorities may differ. Women may see the same trait as commonplace and not particularly valuable, as it is abundant in their social circle.

Misalignment of Priorities in Attraction and Relationships

The expectation that being nice will make men desirable to women often leads to frustration. Men who place a high value on niceness may feel that they are not being recognized or appreciated, which can lead to the establishment of barriers or zones, such as the term “friend zone.” This perceived lack of understanding by women can frustrate men, especially when they genuinely believe their kindness should be a selling point in relationships.

Implications of the Incelphobic Society

The imbalance in how men and women are perceived and treated can lead to a variety of negative psychological impacts. Men who constantly face criticism for their behavior can develop feelings of worthlessness and inadequacy, while women may become more tolerant of suboptimal behavior from those around them due to societal expectations. This imbalance also contributes to the frustration and confusion often experienced by incels, creating a cycle of dissatisfaction and misunderstanding.

Conclusion

The term incelphobic highlights a critical issue in modern American society: the double standard in how men and women are treated. Men are often expected to behave in a specific manner, and any deviation can lead to social exclusion. Conversely, women are showered with perceived kindness and are rarely criticized or held accountable for their behavior. This imbalance can lead to a cycle of misunderstanding, frustration, and dissatisfaction among those affected.

Addressing this issue requires a shift in societal expectations and a more balanced approach to the treatment of individuals based on their actions and character rather than their gender. By fostering a more inclusive and understanding social environment, we can work towards reducing the frustrations and misunderstandings that underpin the incelphobic phenomena.