The Pain of Bowing to Jealousy: Why Your Ex Boyfriend Showed You His New GF

Why did my ex boyfriend send a picture of his new girlfriend to me? This was not some innocent act; it's a clear sign that he was testing your reaction and possibly seeking a reaction that would make you jealous which could make you reconsider your own decision and come back to him.

Understanding His Motives

Behind such an action, your ex was most likely trying to manipulate you or see how you would react. By showing you his new girlfriend's picture, he probably wanted to elicit a response that would indicate whether you were still emotional or if you were over him.

This behavior could also suggest that your ex was immature and insecure, possibly even narcissistic. If he boasted about his new girlfriend while showing the picture to you, he was demonstrating that he felt inferior to his new partner compared to you, or perhaps, he relished in seeing how you would react to the idea of him being with someone else.

Be Grateful He’s Your Ex Now

While it is painful to witness this kind of behavior, it is fortunate that he is now your ex. If you were to remain in contact, his behavior would continue to hurt you, and he would have opportunities to further exploit your emotions. Cherish the time you can spend focusing on yourself and your healing without his influence.

Why Begin a New Relationship with Jealousy?

If your ex tried to provoke you with his new girlfriend's picture, it is a sign that he might not be the one you need in your life. A healthy relationship should not depend on one partner feeling inferior or needing to prove value through comparison. Rather, each person should be secure in their own self-worth and partnership.

Breaking All Contact: The Healthiest Path Forward

He could have just chosen to end the relationship gracefully, showing respect for your feelings and your decision. However, by sending a picture, he clearly attempted to manipulate and hurt you. Such actions should prompt a complete break with no contact, no calls, no texts, no following on social media, and not even talking to mutual friends to stay informed about his new girlfriend.

This is crucial for moving on and healing. Continually wondering or questioning their actions will only prolong your emotional pain. Instead, focus on personal growth and new relationships. If you let this slide, you might find yourself questioning every new relationship, holding onto past grudges and insecurities.

A Clear Dosage of Reality

Remember, it is okay to set boundaries and maintain your health. A message like:

“Ex! I regret not having gone no contact after we broke up. People really should do that as it is the healthiest way for moving on at least for me. Can you imagine how I felt when you broke up with me because you didn’t want a relationship which you’d have known before we became exclusive then miraculously you have a GF again. I just wonder when you’ll be honest about not being ready for a relationship. I don’t want to be friends with you as I can’t muster that up after seeing this. I also don’t want to know you when you dump this poor gal for the very same reason. Count me out! Moving on…”

is a powerful message. It clearly communicates your disapproval and sets an end to any further contact. This is especially pertinent if he plans to use the same tactics on the next relationship, as many young men do to avoid commitment.

Many people fall into the trap of keeping in touch with exes, believing it will heal wounds or help them move on. However, this only prolongs the pain and hinders your ability to truly heal. A no contact period ensures that you and your ex can move on without the emotional ties holding you back.

Conclusion: Stand Your Ground and Move Forward

Despite the initial pain, learning to let go and maintain your boundaries is the healthiest choice for your emotional well-being. Focus on self-improvement and building a fulfilling life that includes positive, supportive relationships. Remember, you deserve someone who respects and values you, not someone who exploits your feelings for their own gain.